Patient Comments: Senior Sex - Experience


Have you found your sex drive has decreased as you have aged? Submit Your Comment

Comment from: Riccardo, 55-64 Female Published: May 15

I got tennis elbow a few months ago and it hurts when I stretch it out or when I touch it. No swelling so far.

Comment from: Jeannie, 55-64 Female (Caregiver) Published: October 27

I was taking Imuran for my Crohn's disease and I had pancreatitis and that pill damaged my pancreas caused my stool to change color.

Comment from: 81 and loveing it., 75 or over Male (Patient) Published: October 21

I'm 81 years old and my wife is 75. We enjoy sex about once a week primarily in our large bath tub. I've had erectile dysfunction for some time and have taken pills to get an erection. I just ordered a penis pump and trust it will help the situation.

Comment from: Granny, 65-74 Female (Patient) Published: August 15

Yes my sex drive has decreased as I have aged because of chronic pain following back surgery 4 years ago that never improves.

Comment from: None, 65-74 Female (Patient) Published: August 15

Yes, my sex drive has decreased as I have aged. Especially dealing with chronic back pain that is unresolvable.

Comment from: Concerned, 65-74 Male (Patient) Published: October 25

My husband had an allergic reaction to almost all antibiotics after having surgery, a lot of steroids were given. His feet and stomach are very swollen, and it's been ten days since he has been home. I don’t know how long it will take for the swelling to go down.

Comment from: PAredneck, 55-64 Female Published: July 21

I was stung by a wasp on the calf. It hurt more than any bee sting I've ever had. It swelled up my entire calf. It still hurts 3 days later like a deep bruise.

Comment from: Warrior, 65-74 Male Published: December 02

I am 71 years old and will be 72 in February. I have never had a problem health-wise, I take no prescription medicine, no flu shots, nothing. I am 5'10" and weigh 200 pounds with 8 percent body fat and have abs and no love handles. I only have a problem with erections when I am with my wife who is 69, petite at 5'4" and 100 pounds and beautiful. Forty-five years of marriage later, I have a hard time getting the full-long lasting erections I was used to. Now with my 45-year-old girlfriend it too was a problem, once, and then for the last few years -- without taking anything other than some nitric tablets -- it has been rock and roll, once I get going, but it takes a little time.

Comment from: smileybaby, 65-74 Female (Patient) Published: October 04

As I aged especially after retiring I have found my sex drive has increased. I am 67 and these last 2 years have been hard for me. I for the first time got a vibrator and use it regularly. I should tell you my husband died of cancer 2 yrs ago and for about 3 years, we didn't have any type of sexual relationship. I have even purchased a book called "Sex after 60. It opened my eyes and I think I talk more easily about what I want in a sexual relationship. I am more open now than before.

Comment from: Sergio, 65-74 Male (Patient) Published: May 28

My drive has not decreased, but my wife is no longer interested. We haven't had intercourse for five years (ugh!). I'm 74 – so I masturbate three or more times per week. I'm not as aroused as I was at 17, but close. I love being aroused and wish I was wanted sexually.

Comment from: JJ., 55-64 Male Published: February 01

I'm 63 years old now and have never had a problem with sex. I've been married for 43 years and for the first few years we had sex almost every day. My wife loves sex, but we are down to about 3 or 4 times a week now. We spend a lot more time at it now as we are both retired. I love to work the g spot on my wife and she usually soaks me down before we have sex. We go to the sex store a couple times a year just to find something new. What would we do without sex. We love it.

Comment from: Mekong69, 55-64 Male Published: September 15

Actually, I still have the sex drive and desire as I did when I was in my 20's, & 30's. I'm currently 61 and engage in sex twice a week, with wife of 40 years. We're very active and enjoy each other as it was the first time...


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Comment from: raldaman, 75 or over Male Published: April 19

The short answer is yes to a certain extent. The main problem, however, is inability to achieve and maintain a full erection.

Comment from: Bee, 75 or over Male (Patient) Published: March 23

No, but the ability to act on it sure has declined.

Comment from: fantasea, 65-74 Male (Patient) Published: March 07

I had an active sex drive when I was younger. 5 times a week. Now I have no real desire. I also have ED but feel its more loss of desire than ED.

Comment from: Lisa, 55-64 Female (Patient) Published: February 28

My sex drive has increased as I have aged. I attribute that to having more energy and time since I retired.

Comment from: realow, 65-74 Male (Patient) Published: December 06

My wife and I have just been apart too much and we haven't had sex in a few years, but both are anxious to now. My anxieties and nervousness and fear of failure kill my sex drive. I think if I just had some good strong medicine we could get through this.

Comment from: outlawdan59, 55-64 Male (Patient) Published: December 06

I’ve noticed that my late 30's I started having problems. I ended up with diabetes which my doctor stated I had been diabetic for quite a while. Also, I have high blood pressure. I'm 59 years young not married. I hope to meet someone that wouldn’t have a problem with it.

Comment from: class22jem, 65-74 Female Published: November 15

In my upper sixties, I have sex a bit less often than when I was younger, but I do enjoy it more each time. The slowing down of the whole process makes it more pleasurable for me. It's no longer a rushed process but a low savoring of feelings and sensations. It's great when you're with somebody you love.


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