Patient Comments: Loss, Grief, and Bereavement - Experience


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Comment from: blondie, 55-64 Male (Caregiver) Published: February 05

I am a 57 year old who started a week ago with a very bad cold, which may have been a flu strain. I have been taking first 1,000 mg of Cipro for 5 days and then for the next 5 days because of fever 101. I started with amoxcillin twice a day 875 mg each time. This in addition to Robitussin DM and Tylenol extra strength. The cough is now residual but I'm not congested anymore and no longer have a fever. I am just incredibly tired, sleepy, and exhausted.

Comment from: Birdy, 25-34 Female (Patient) Published: December 02

I lost my fiancé to suicide. I feel isolated and irregular modes spurts of anger towards those nearest to me and really resents full and unsure about almost everything I do towards others and myself. I'm more angry than sad and I feel very little about myself but hurt inside when I'm getting ready to go to bed or the sun goes down I feel a sense of emptiness in my body along with anger and hurt and I cry for him wishing he was still among us just a call away the fact that I can’t hear his voice terrifies me. And takes my breath away I loved him so much. Since he took his life I feel I should take mine but then I think about my children and it seems more bearable to continue living. Objects seem deem and dull no interest in my life. When I wake up I feel there is no sense in starting a new day without him in our lives I'm sick of feeling at all.

Comment from: wheezie, 45-54 Female (Patient) Published: November 08

I was divorcing my husband after 23 years. He was a great father, worked hard, but not a great husband; he liked to drink party and gamble. I have Crohn’s and had so many surgeries so after my last surgery in 2011 I decided I had to end our marriage. He would not get help he would say that is for weak people. I begged him and he was insulin dependent and killing himself with all of his bad habits. It was killing me so when I left he got so much more controlling and sexually assaulted me, but I moved away and he had gotten sick. He died in April 2016 and I am grieving for him and my children are a mess. I can’t help them if I can’t even help my grieving! Our children are 25 and 26 and we have 3 grand daughters who loved him dearly also! Even though I knew I had to leave him to save my life it was the hardest heart breaking thing I ever had to do because I still loved him but could not take the abusive behavior anymore! But I am hurting and blaming myself for his death. If I would have stayed I could have helped him but I also think, well, I did for 23 years and he would not listen to me about partying and drinking so how can I make him do anything!

Comment from: Me, Published: July 09

My mom dies a year ago, my dad 4 mos to the day. Everyone I have loved is gone. My wife and parents didn't get along so I cannot confide in her, so I grieve alone. It has been a year and I feel like I am coasting through life, doing what I must, not doing much else. It gets easier at 6 mos, then easier at 12 mos. I now realize I must push through it, accept it for what it is and move on as they did with their parents and those parents who had parents who passed. Doesn't mean I don't hate it, just means I too have a life and a wife who needs me and I haven't really been there the past 12 mos and may not be then next 12 mos but at lease I am aware of it more so and will push through it and move on, just like all those children who have lost their parents, I am not the only one though it feels that way selfishly.

Comment from: charlie, 55-64 Male (Caregiver) Published: May 28

I lost my wife about three years ago and to this day, I'm still having a hard time dealing with her death. People have told me it does get easy as time go on. Maybe that’s true, but to me it doesn't get easy. I don't know what to do with myself because right now I take care of my mother. While I don't mind, it reminds me of when I took care of my wife. I am not sure how to handle this.

Comment from: Love and faith, Female Published: November 06

I was to get married next February and was preparing for my wedding when my fiance was diagnosed with end stage renal failure. I am aware that this condition is treatable, but I am scared. I lost my father in a car accident when I was 12. This incident has scared me even more, nothing seems to be in control. I am scared for everyone around me. I am scared of my thoughts as they scare me even further. I am trying to control and be strong. Please be strong and have faith and patience.

Comment from: sandrahh, 55-64 Female (Caregiver) Published: May 05

I'm in the process of looking for online support group. It's only been three months, have a lot of bad days. No one to really talk to, don't want my children (all grown) to know what I'm going through.

Comment from: Iram, 19-24 Female Published: February 14

The best thing that I did was assess someone until I was sure I could trust them and then let them in on what I'd been going through. Prayer, 'me-time,' exercising and keeping a plain book just whenever I need to get something off my chest. The amazing thing about writing is that I often write about things I haven't given too much thought to. On days when things aren't going 100% right I say to myself "It's a down day, it’s understandable." Recently I phoned a helpline who were fantastic. I'm going through a difficult time again so I'm going to visit the helpline office so I'll see how that goes. The best thing to do is be honest and just be aware of the situation as much as possible. None of this has taken away the pain but it helps.


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